Sometimes you find yourself wondering if you truly deserve the happiness you feel.
Sometimes you wonder if things are more a matter of luck, than a matter of fate.
Beneath every relationship is a foundation - for some it was the great sex, the intense flirtation, the wild weekend, for us it was the inner gay geek that wanted to find someone who "got us".
I know I was a horrible person.
I used to have a devil-may-care attitude towards things. I used to be demanding, and vengeful and very very manipulative. I used to think only my happiness mattered.
In fact, for a long time, that's what I believed was the right mature way to view love: Your Own Happiness Is Paramount.
Thank the gods I have discovered how wrong I was. And thank you so much Rocky for helping me realize that love can be selfless and yet very fulfilling. Love can be nurturing and caring without suffocating. Love can be trusting and risking and dangerous, but when faced alone, all obstacles and trials become surmountable.
We found each other and build foundations that we never thought of as things that could be the frame work of a long and lasting love. We found ways to mix our lives together, stay individual, yet cherish and celebrate each and every single day.
I love you, Rocky.
I know I should post more frequently here in Baduy Pride, and I know I used to find time to do so. My juggling so many things has knocked me silly sometimes, but I definitely have not lost sight of us.
The foundations are strong.
I love you Rocky.
Happy One Year and One Month!
Tuesday, December 17, 2013
Sunday, December 8, 2013
Many thanks to everyone who participated in the LGBTQ Pride March 2013 at Malate yesterday! It was a rather arduous road to get to this point and I'm just glad that we had a chance to march at all.
We managed to get a few friends to try marching for the first time and we hope that this makes the beginning of a new tradition for them. And in the long run I hope that more friends are similarly inspired to march with us next year or in the years to come. We have a very long way to go before true equality of the LGBT community is achieved here in the Philippines. And every new voice added to the cause will go a very long way.
Wednesday, December 4, 2013
This Saturday, December 7, 2013, is this year's annual Metro Manila Pride March. Despite some confusing cancellations, the Pride March is still pushing through, and this is definitely a good thing.
Tobie and I will definitely be marching again this year given how important this one activity is. Beyond any internal politics or differences in opinion, the Pride March has always represented the importance of the LGBT struggle for equal rights in the country. And we still have a long way to go.
So once again, this is a call to friends and like-minded citizens who believe in the LGBT cause. Whether you're straight or gay or somewhere in-between, the Pride March is open to everyone who wants equal rights for the LGBT community. The Pride March is a way to truly show support for your LGBT friends. And you definitely don't need to be LGBT to participate.
And I sincerely hope to see more of my straight friends join us on Saturday. It would mean so much to Tobie and me if you'd take some time out to show support. It's the least you folks could do. ;-)
See you all on Saturday!