Saturday, March 2, 2019


A lot of times I find myself just staring at Tobie and feeling the need to tell him that I love him and that I'm so happy to be with him. It's super cheesy and 2003 Rocky would scoff at these wanton displays of corny affection. But that's just really how it is. Our life together is pretty awesome and we're happy. There will always be things that we wished were different and things we wished we had the time and resources to do, but beyond that life is good.

Happy Wheelie Day, love love. Thank you for choosing me.

Monday, August 6, 2018

Little Squee Moments

Today Tobie and I ended up at Va Bene Pasta Deli at Central Square for an impromptu dinner out after work. As much as I typically avoid Italian restaurants since it gets me guilty that I should have cooked us pasta for dinner instead but this restaurant surprised us during a random movie night and it has become a happy indulgence for us.

The table next to us was another couple (albeit a straight one) who were apparently celebrating an anniversary. I muttered to Tobie that it was kinda funny that we weren't celebrating but were just eating.

To this Tobie replied, "Or we've never stopped celebrating."

I really liked that.

Thursday, May 31, 2018

Movie Dates

I really enjoy going to the movies. It's an experience that I often relate to happy memories while growing up because a trip to the cinema is always going to be a good thing. Movies are a special kind of magic that will irrationally look better on a giant projector screen no matter how good your home theater setup is. Watching a movie at a cinema means always having popcorn and sitting through trailers that give you a glimpse of exciting features to come and enduring local ads that are always much louder than everything else.

I love going to the movies with Tobie and I'm glad that he takes the time and effort to do so. Sometimes my eagerness to see a movie will mean needing to venture out on opening day or wake up much earlier than normal on a weekend just to squeeze in a showing before other social commitments. He understands when I get worried about not catching particular films while they're still showing at theaters and will help ensure that we do get to go.

We may not travel much nor do we feel strongly about the beach or what have you. But we'll always have these movie dates and they continue to add so many fun memories to our shared history.

Just another reason why I love Tobie so much.

Wednesday, April 11, 2018

Pamilya Egg 2018

I really like this photo from the weekend. Pamilya Egg still going strong, in a manner of speaking. We've all continued to grow in our respective ways and we're not quite the same people we were when this "family" started. But I love who we are and anak will always be a very important friend.

You don't let go of people like him.

Tuesday, April 3, 2018

Because You Dance With Me

My first foray into the "gay world", in a manner of speaking, involved Malate and the different clubs there. And much like the then newly popular Queer as Folk TV series, the Malate of the time tried to capture the club lifestyle that stressed the need for dance floors and all that fun stuff. And despite my lack of coordination and my relatively bigger (read: fatter) size, I also got into dancing. Dancing is always be fun to me as it's a way to cut loose a bit or just celebrate a really good song or even a really good feeling born of a great evening with friends.

When Tobie and I got together, our early excursions while we were dating already involved the cramped dance floor of O Bar in Malate. It sort of reminded me of my early days of dancing at Bed when it (1) still existed as a bar and (2) was much smaller than its final incarnations. But there was one big difference.

Every time Tobie and I would dance, and this is true until today, he'd be dancing with me. Or let me add some additional stress there: he'd be dancing with me. And I say this as some weird revelation as in the past dancing was just something fun to do in itself. I tend to dance with my eyes close since (1) I like to focus on the music and (2) I'd often be dancing alone. Sure my boyfriend was just around the corner or dancing on the ledge but it didn't always feel like he was dancing for me.

Tobie always makes sure to dance with me at the bar. Sometimes it may even appear that he's isolating me a bit or pushing other people away but in the end it's more that when we dance we only have eyes for one another and the rest of the bar no longer really matters. And while we both still dance with other friends we're hanging out with at the bar from time to time, I never feel alone and I know (and I'm sure he also knows in turn) that he's there for me and I'm there for him. And sooner or later he's going to make his way to where I am and dance with me.

And after so many years it still makes me smile and feel a little giddy even. And that's a feeling that I hope never goes away and I honestly doubt it ever will.  It's just another little thing that is worth celebrating. That's what Baduy Pride is all about after all - gushing over every little thing that makes me fall in love with Tobie all over again.

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