Wednesday, April 23, 2014
The other week I managed to get one of Red Ribbon's limited Mango Cream Pies for Tobie. It was one of his earliest stories when we were first getting to know one another - the fact that he could walk around the mall eating the entire pie all by himself. But by the time we had gotten together, the pies had been taken off the menu for some reason. Thankfully they're back for a few months.
I had no particular reason to get the pie - no particular anniversary or something like that. It was just something that I wanted to do for Tobie - and so I went ahead and got it and gingerly carried it all the way home to the Sietch. And that sort of captures a big part of our relationship - all the random crazy surprises that we like to spring on one another. The seemingly grand yet ever so baduy gestures that really add color to our lives.
Five years ago, Tobie got on one knee in the middle of the old O Bar in Malate and promised to be loyal forever. And we had our share of ups and downs over the years including a brief period apart in 2012, but now we're officially back together and we continue to move forward together.
And so I continue to find new ways to surprise him, new ways to make him happy or at least surprising ways to get him to smile. April 23 may not be our current official anniversary any more, but it's still another special day to remember.
Plus I love how goofy Tobie looks when I do something special for him.
Wednesday, March 19, 2014
But all in all, I've been quite a tremendously happy camper. And that is in no small part due to how Rocky finds ways every single day to make me smile. Whether its with a geeky tidbit we'd both check out, a romantic gesture, a supportive hug, or a reassuring touch, Rocky finds ways to remind me of how lucky we are to have found each other. To have grown together in the time that passed. To have grown stronger in the fact of everything we have been thrown against.
But yes, I know I've been quite quiet on the Baduy Pride front. I used to gush and boast about so many things that make things special for me and Rocky. I used to go all out and just post the stuff when I can. Lately, however, I've been starting to feel a bit more selective.
More things are starting to feel like happy moments I want to keep just between me and him. And these are not out of having to hide them, or feelings of shame or the like. I just can't help but feel there are things I would like for us to cherish between ourselves alone.. at least for now.
In the time that has passed, I've started to get a better perspective on other people. Some people I've so long deemed as friends are now clearly people whom seem to celebrate my existence only when they need something, or when its convenient. But when push comes to shove, when speaking up for what's right is needed, they seem to just fade away. Other friends enjoy my friendship with one hand, then spend the rest of the day spewing hateful words which for them are just "expressions" and "jokes"but one has to at some point wonder if they care how it does hurt others. Especially when you've raised it already. More revelations, more realizations and more personalities become clearer. The ones you care for soon become people you can still reach out towards, but now with clearer boundaries to avoid confusion. The ones you can count on who make the same effort to show you that you matter to them just as much as they do to you. The people who never give up on you.
Rocky and I are so lucky to have what we have. And I hope you all out there don't mind if for the mean time I might relish a little bit of selfishness keeping things between me and him. This won't be forever, that's for sure. But it is just to reassure you all that things are magnificent right now.
And perhaps, for a very long time.
Wednesday, February 26, 2014
|(Singapore) Adventure Time!|
Every couple out there (straight or otherwise) inevitably gets into "couples outfits" - pairs of shirts or even full matching ensembles that you can wear together and create a strong visual cue that you're together. It's a cheesy, corny, heck baduy practice that even I have scoffed at from time to time, but now I'm guilty of it as well.
Friday, February 14, 2014
As mentioned previously, I ended up getting Tobie's Valentine's Day gifts a week early. To be fair, I had no idea that I would be at Fully Booked's branch at Fort Bonifacio nor did I have a specific plan as to what I was going to get him. But these two Studio Ghibli art books presentends themselves to me and it seemed like the perfect gift idea at the time. And since I had already tortured Tobie over the Christmas holidays with a delayed gift, I figured I'd cut him some slack this time around.
Happy Valentine's Day, everyone! Do try to celebrate love in all its forms today.
Besides, they say bitterness and resentment is bad for your skin or something.
The Dalek was for me. LOL