Dedication

Since today is a local holiday, Tobie had some friends over to play board games and they were pretty much up all night gaming while I was at work. What surprised me was the fact that Tobie had stayed up to wait for me to get home from work, which was closer to 11:00am quite honestly since I had a late start to my work shift last night.

It's a rather touching gesture, although ultimately one that I really don't recommend anyone do. In the end he was only awake long enough to see me arrive and to kiss me hello. Now he's fast asleep and I'm trying to wrap up my blogging quickly so that I can join him in bed and we can have one of those rare moments of being able to sleep at the same time.

When your schedules don't quite line up and your work week often feels like an endless game of playing catch-up, such moments remain rather endearing.

And relationships thrive on little moments of dedication like this. Big gestures are great - we all love those, but more often than not it's the little things that really make a difference.

Fandom Live Memories

So it's April, and I realize that I didn't manage to update this blog for all of March. Updates in general have been down to pretty much just monthly posts and I feel a little bad about that. But I guess given my daily updates over on my personal blog, it's not as easy to create dedicated content for his blog. But hey it's a new quarter, so let me see what I can come up with. Thanks to those who still stick around here to see what we might come up with.

In terms of recent updates, it amused me that Tobie recently uploaded a bunch of the old Fandom Live! episodes. For those who are unfamiliar with this obscure web show, it was a series that Tobie and a bunch of other geek friends created for movie reviews and other crazy geeky discussions. When I first met Tobie in 2009 the show was still in full swing and so among our early "dates" were appearing on the show together. I was a guest initially but later on I sort of became one of the regular hosts together with Tobie.

The show is dead now but every now and then Tobie and I think about putting up a web show, vlog or podcast of our own but have no idea where we'll find the time to do so.

For the curious, you can check out many of the classic Fandom Live! episodes via this YouTube playlist I've assembled from various sources.

Baduy Pride Has Got Your Back!

Here's Rocky and Tobie of Baduy Pride sharing our support for GLAAD's Got Your Back campaign to show support for the LGBT community. Feel free to show some LGBT love as well by taking a photo with the Got Your Back image or even just signing the pledge to show your support! We'd really appreciate it!

The Mathematics of Love

In a similar vein to the Science Love Song (but not quite as fun), TED released a video in time for Valentine's Day talking about the Mathematics of Love. And while I have rather mixed feelings about the lack of quality in TED talks, this was a rather endearing one even though the conclusions might
seem a little weird.


Find the equation that makes sense for the two of you. Happy Valentine's Day, everyone!

The NetRunner Gateway

Once again, today is NetRunner night. I've already explained the origins of this key moment in our personal history as a couple, but more recently I realized a few other things related to this event.

These days, no weekend is complete without a game session with friends. Whether we're talking about boardgame sessions or a lengthy tabletop RPG campaign, Tobie and I spend a lot of time playing such games with friends. I've also written how these games tend to be our primary channel for social interaction with friends, and a particularly fun one, too!

But as I think back to NetRunner night, I realize that I should have realized that our very first in-person meeting had pretty much set the tone for our relationship as well. Beyond the obvious concept of our union being quite a geeky one, our time together also involves a heck of a lot of games. And I'm really glad that this is the case - I grew up playing games with my siblings and my cousins and now it's an active part of my adult life.

Tobie really opened new doors of geekery for me and for that I'm forever grateful. And maybe that's what NetRunner night represents in a greater sense - proof that you'll eventually find the right geek for you to complete your geeky life. You just have to keep your eyes open and your gaming table free.