Vlog Ep. 299: Our Second Home Called O Bar

Tonight's #BaduyPride episode was all about O Bar, a place that is more than "just" a bar or some other "gay club".  We obviously love the place like a second home given all my many videos of the drag performances and other events there and other good stuff. we still wanted to dedicate another episode to celebrating the legacy of the bar and its recent re-opening 

Of course, the episode managed to extend for about two hours as we recounted various stories across our history with O Bar. I'm sure we covered a number of these stories in other Baduy Pride episodes, but it's never too soon to bring up old stories again, I guess. And it was nice to solve the little "mystery" of the person who greeted us the last time we were at O Bar to tell us he watches the show. Hooray internet connection!

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Vlog Ep. 239: Dating Pet Peeves

Tonight's Friday #BaduyPride episode was all about dating pet peeves, and we had a lot of fun with all the different stories viewers shared during the stream. It's good to take a step back and laugh at these things whether they're seemingly ridiculous things that bother us or maybe the silly things that we're guilty of ourselves. 

Pet peeves are ultimately unique to each person and so there's a lot of room for misunderstandings and all that crazy stuff. But I stand by my statement at the end where it boils down to how much the rest of the date is going to determine how bad a pet peeve really is. But I'm also excited about the thought of what Tobie brought up about how pet peeves might be totally different for a lot of the digital-first generations that are coming into their own. I wonder if anyone will chime in with their own quirky irks in the comments. 

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Vlog Ep. 223: About "Positions"

This special "after dark" #BaduyPride episode was all about the complicated conversation of sexual positions, sexual roles, and all that messy stuff that comes into play when people decide to get intimate. We also wanted to discuss this in a manner that didn't become too crass and also still somewhat PG-13 and so we weren't super explicit about things.

As is the case with many episodes, I was surprised at where the episode went and I was pretty happy with how things went. Then again, this is why Tobie and I this show - I feel like we have a great rhythm together and we end up covering good points that we super agree on and just reaffirm how we've stayed together for so long.

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Vlog Ep. 218: Corporations and Pride

Tonight's #BaduyPride episode continues our Pride Month focus as we talked about the complexities of corporations and pride. At times, insincere marketing efforts by corporations feel like a very Western problem, but maybe the fact that it happens so infrequently here reflects another problem. There's bad pride marketing and there's a dearth of pride marketing, and both don't reflect well on the community. 

So we talked about the challenge of sincere engagement by corporate entities but we also talked about what we can actually do. And this is where things always sound very...limited. We can only do so much to change things but at least we're doing something. We have to start somewhere, be sincere in our efforts but also remain patient and open to continuing the dialog with those we want to get on board. The fight for LGBT rights is a lengthy one that is far from over. But we have to start somewhere.

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Vlog Ep. 213: Discovering Your Sexuality

Tonight's episode of #BaduyPride was all about discovering your sexuality, a viewer request that we figured would be a good part of our Pride Month series of episodes. And while an understanding of SOGIE has helped us all appreciate that there's more to our identity than just our sexual orientation, that wasn't always the case before. 

We started by talking about our own experiences and how we experienced our own "sexual awakening" - or whatever you want to call it. But to keep things light, things eventually shifted to amusing discussions of examples of crushes, movies, TV shows, and even fictional characters that played a role in helping us to first feel things if you get the drift.

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Vlog Ep. 169: A Long Weekend with AnTuTan Says

Last night's #BaduyPride episode was an EPIC discussion with the fabulous drag artists of AnTuTan Says - this being the collective of Queen Anita, Turing Quinto, Mrs. Tan, and Samael Says Cünt. This episode marks the first time we've had Anita and Samael on the show AND the first time we've had a drag king as a guest as well. 

We spent close to 4 hours talking about everything from how the group got together to all the quirks of online drag performances. We really appreciate the time they took to hang out with us and we definitely hope to get an opportunity to do so again in the future.

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Vlog Ep. 164: Friday Night with the Divine Divas

We really enjoyed talking to the Divine Divas in this episode of #BaduyPride! Precious Paula Nicole, Vinas Deluxe, and Brigiding aren't just amazing drag queens, but they're also a lot of fun to hang out with and we enjoyed learning more about how they became friends and came up with the Divine Bar during this pandemic given our 3+ hours live stream with them.

And as much as we've already spoken with different drag queens on the show, it continues to amaze us how different everyone's perspectives on drag end up being. Every drag queen has their own journey into the craft and ends up defining their own take on the medium. And we'll continue to try to get more fabulous queens on the show to help them share their views of the art with everyone because this art form is amazing and is worthy of celebration.

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Vlog Ep. 160: Drag Academy PH

Tonight's #BaduyPride was an AMAZING episode with some of the faculty of the first-of-its-kind Drag Academy PH. We're super thankful that our guest queens MC BLCK, MRS. TAN, and CLEA TORRES for making the time to be with us for this 3+ hour discussion of so many aspects of drag culture and artistry, particularly from a Philippine perspective.

I'm glad that we were able to facilitate such a meaningful discussion with so many well-spoken drag artists - and generally without incident. It's already tricky to manage a good interview/conversation with just one guest, what more three very passionate individuals who had a lot to share with our viewers. This episode just stresses that we need to do more of these guest shows and continue to share our platform with other friends and individuals that we want to support.

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Vlog Ep. 155: Dancing Geeks

Tonight's episode of #BaduyPride was all about dancing! We got to talk about our personal histories when it comes to dancing ranging from early school performances to how we ended up dancing together at O Bar. We don't claim to be great dancers in any sort of professional capacity, but we do enjoy whatever you want to call the motions we end up doing.

I was rather amused that people were surprised at my heavy metal most pit path and I'm sure more than a few took some time to absorb Tobie's description of how ravers of his time would dance alone together. And while I'm not ready to show people my limited tap dancing skills, I do really miss playing dance games like Dance Dance Revolution and DanceManiaX back in the day.

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Vlog Ep. 119: RPDR Year 12

Today's #BaduyPride was a celebration of the reality competition show RuPaul's Drag Race and its rather colorful history over the 12-ish years of the franchise's life. We tried to cover everything from the show format, it's many spin-offs, and all the drama in-between. It certainly made for a fun Saturday night conversation with our Baduy Pride friends who also enjoy watching the show.

And while we don't exactly claim to be RPDR superfans or anything like that, we do genuinely enjoy the show and continue to follow the franchise across its many iterations. And we're the sort of guys who honestly liked Drag U and wished it got a longer run than it did. So yeah, we're quirky fans of the show in that regard.

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Vlog Ep. 111: 15 Years of O Bar

Tonight's #BaduyPride was a special celebration in honor of the 15th anniversary of O Bar. More than just another LGBT club, O Bar is really a second home for us and we wanted to pay tribute to it in our own way, even if it means retelling the same old stories.

There are so many reasons to love O Bar, but for us, it's obviously about the people and the sense of family we experience whenever we go. It's where it's easy to get to know who your waiters are given their names are literally on their shirts, but they also take the time to get to know you and will try to remember you for the next time you go. It's where drag is truly celebrated as an art form.

And we can't wait to be able to go back to O Bar safely. 

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Vlog Ep. 105: LGBT Movies and Shows

Today's #BaduyPride episode was all about those LGBT movies and TV shows that have stuck with us the most over the years. Whether they're outright favorites or just have a special place in our hearts, we did our best to cite different titles of interest with an admittedly obvious slant towards older movies. 

What a time to be alive though that it feels like there's new LGBT content out there every single day. And not just foreign stuff, but a lot of local productions as well. It wasn't always like this and I hope everyone appreciates how far we've come even though we still have a long way to go.

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Vlog Ep. 100: Managing Relationship Diversity

Wow guys, we've hit 100 episodes for #BaduyPride. That's kind of amazing and sad all at the same time since we started this live stream vlog whatever show as a way to feel more connected with friends despite the lockdown. 100 episodes later and we're still in lockdown with the calendar year coming to a close.

But that's not the point. The point is our decision to finally talk about throuples and other more "diverse" relationship forms out there. In the end, a relationship is a relationship and it's always going to take a LOT of work to keep it going. And if everyone involved is on the same page and committed to making things work, then it totally stands a chance.

But what do we know? We're not like experts or anything. We're just two geeks who have no qualms about going online every night to talk about different topics for more than 30 minutes time and time again. 

Thanks for supporting the show. Here's to 100 more episodes! When do we get to do a show, not at our dining table? LOL

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Vlog Ep. 95: Saturday Night with Precious Paula Nicole

Despite some technical difficulties at the end, we super enjoyed last night's #BaduyPride episode with the one and only Precious Paula Nicole. We spent a good 2+ hours talking about her artistic career as a dancer and eventually a drag artist. It's a shame that Restream got buggy at the end even after restarting things, but such are the limitations of these technologies.

Here's the second stream and our formal extro for the episode for the record:

We'll definitely schedule a follow-up episode with Precious to continue the conversation along with more interview episode with other drag artists that we love. Last night's episode was a weird reminder that the technical constraints are always going to be there, but for as long as we continue to have fun, we'll continue to try to stream these Baduy Pride vlogs.

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Vlog Ep. 88: One Night with MC Black

I guess we spoke too soon about the anniversary episode being our longest yet. Last night's #BaduyPride live stream ran for over 4 HOURS because we had so much fun talking to fabulous O Diva MC Black! This was a great interview and a beautiful exploration of her career, her thoughts on drag as an art form, and with a surprise performance at the end!

Ever since we got to interview Turing, we knew that we wanted to coordinate with the rest of the O Divas for episodes and we're super appreciative that MC made time for us last night. And the range of topics that we covered and the many insights she shared were outright inspiring not just for drag artists but pretty much anyone wanting to better express their creative side.

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Vlog Ep. 65: Choosing Family Within LGBT Circles

A friend suggested we talk about "Cliques, Barkadas, and Family within the Community", but we figured that it was a little better to just focus on the concept of the LGBT tendency to create alternative families as a support structure to stay in theme with #BaduyPride episodes in general. 

Beyond inevitable references to our own family, Pamilya Egg, we also took some time to sort of go over our respective social journeys and how that may lead up to the friendships we've formed and fostered as LGBT individuals. And as this was a Friday session, it was pretty chill and maybe a little rambly once the alcohol kicked in. But on the whole, it was a fun session.

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Vlog Ep. 59: Digital Dating

Because we enjoy letting our Friday night episode run a little longer, tonight's alcohol-empowered #BaduyPride episode was all about dating in this digital age! People had asked how social media had impacted our dating lives (which it hadn't), so we ended up talking about what we do think of the modern dating world and what fundamentals still apply.

But yeah, I think our core advice to people remains the same regardless of the medium. Be honest  - sell yourselves as you and not someone you hope to be. Figure out what your non-negotiables are. Be open to meet new people. Be clear in communicating what you expect out of a person or an encounter.

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Vlog Ep. 54: Indoor Night Out

I guess we were inspired our first guest episode with Turing Quinto, so we ended theming this episode of #BaduyPride such that we can still have guests involved. In this case, we decided to talk about our favorite memories of nights out and asked our friends to jump in and share their own stories.

I have to admit, this quickly turned into a gathering of close friends that just happened to be online. We hope that you enjoyed a taste of the camaraderie we've formed at O Bar (primarily). This pandemic is a tough challenge for all of us but we can still find ways to stay connected with our friends and focus on the better times ahead. 

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Vlog Ep. 53: #TURSday Thursday with Turing Quinto

Our 53rd episode of #BaduyPride features our very first guest - the lip-sync assassin of O Bar, Turing Quinto! This fabulous drag artist is known for some very compelling performances and has found ways to expand her creative efforts to the digital space during this challenging period of lockdown.

You can follow Turing on her different social channels here:

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/TuringQuinto

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ateturs

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/turingquinto/

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Vlog Ep 49: Our Experiences with the Local Queer Scene

We've been taking advantage of using Friday nights for longer #BaduyPride episodes, and our 49th one was all about our diverse experiences with the local queer scene over the years. It was an interesting retelling that started with our solo adventures before we got together and culminated with everything we love about O Bar.

We also took some time to share some of our experiences with foreign LGBT spaces in the US, Singapore, and Thailand, just to sort of compare and contrast those spaces versus the bars at home. This video ran for a good 90 minutes and we really enjoyed all the comments that came in during the stream that made things extra special.

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